Tips

How To Become A Good Listener 

 

Who wants to become a good listener? Listening is a powerful tool of communication. Listening and just hearing has great difference. All of us wants to have a companion who is a good listener and most of us aim to be one as well. When you assess yourself now, what kind of listener are you? A deep careful listener, a bored listener, a selective listener, a defensive listener, an interpretive listener or an insensitive listener? Do you want to know some tips how to become a good listener? If so, here are my simple tips for you:

Follow the golden rule: “Do unto others what you want others do unto you.” Put yourself on the position of the one who is speaking to you. Make an effort to listen to the person who is speaking by giving your full attention to the speaker. Focus your mind to what he is trying to say and for the unspoken messages. Watch for the non-verbal communication like tone of voice, hand gestures, facial expressions and other body movements. Listen for the real meaning and not just for the literal words. Finish listening first before you begin to speak for you to be sure that you understand what is being said and think clearly what to react. Ask questions if you are not sure, to understand what the speaker is trying to convey. Good listening requires practice and patience. But, if you hone this skill you’ll appreciate life more.

 

The Bad Effects of Anger

Have you been angry? Good for you if you have not experienced such state. Anger is unpredictable, it could blow out its ferocity little at a time or just ones with a big blow.
Anger is common among people who live through less ideal home life. Dealing with it that has develop over a lifetime of pain and frustration is like trying to hold the lid of pressure cooker. The longer such enduring anger linger,the more the chance that it will overflow into other relationships, that may result to conflicts, rejection or hostility.
Person who is experiencing it may express their anger by hitting or yelling, or by rebelling or refusing to speak. What can we do to help people experiencing it? Let us help them realize that talking the anger is much better than doing it. They really need someone to talk to, who will listen them for them to pour out their feelings, they need counselor for it.
This is what I learned from my own experience on harboring anger. Not just that, anger could cause insomnia, heartaches, hyperacidity , hormonal imbalance and other physical ailments due to emotional stress. I have taken some prescription drugs for the physical ailments I have experienced but there was no complete healing on it. Forgiveness in my heart has been the best drug to it.

 

The Importance of Open Communication

Open communication is vital in every relationship. Having an open communication between parents and children is one of the best thing in life. Sharing feelings, thoughts and ideas binds them more, strengthens their love and widens understanding though they are apart. It is not too late yet if you are not used to it, you could start practicing good communication with your loved ones today. And, if you are consistent to it definitely everything will follow.

Parents plans and do everything that is best for their children. So, even if they do not ask their children to return the favor for all their cares, their children usually thinks what is best for their parents especially by the time that they are no longer staying with their parents and cannot immediately respond to their parents needs as much as they love to. Elderly care topics like finding the right nursing home or in-home health care and other relevant topics for elderly needs could easily be tackled to parents though they are still on their productive and active age if there is an open communication between parents and children.

Having a great relationship and good communication with your parents with the assurance of your care though you will be miles apart in the future and opening the elderly care topics with them as early as possible will open their minds and let them understand better of their future needs. They could even help you choose of the right facilities for their future needs like nursing homes that offers great nursing home services.

To find a nursing home or a great facility that they could feel at home with while all their needs are being catered is a great achievement not just to children but to the seniors as well. If your parents sense that you care and love them and your plans is for their best, for them to live a healthy, happy and longer lives, these will act as their motivators to be on state that you want them to be and, will love and understand you more. Open communication between children and parents especially when parents are on their senior years is much more needed than any other stages in life, hope everyone will understand its importance.

 

 

Tips How To Build Trust

Trust is so fragile that is hard to put back to its original state when broken. My simple tips how to build trust is dedicated to kids and their parents as well.

Tips How To Build Trust:

• Never tell a lie, always tell the truth. And, say it kindly and tactfully.
• Be real, do not act like somebody you are not.
• Do not gossip about other people’s life. The one you are talking to may think you are gossiping her at her back. The worst scene is – if she pass what you said to other people too.
• Never betray a confidence. Do not tell the secrets confided to you.
• Keep all the promises you made. If you cannot keep a promise, better not to promise at all.
• When you borrow something, always return it as soon as possible. 
  
  

  Stress Test and Stress Management Tips

  Stress test and stress management tips? That is what I want to share to you today. For a simple stress test just follow two steps. First, be aware and check your breathing every now and then during the day. If you feel it was shallow, you are tensed; if it seems labored you are exhausted; and if you are breathing evenly, that is good news because it just means you are feeling good and relaxed. Second, listen to your body. Most of us know if our body is reacting to stress – stomach hurts, you suddenly feel headache or become irritable, and, or your neck tensed up. So simple stress test, right? It was meant to be simple for you to easily check if you are under stress so you can quickly take steps to deal with the stressful situations and be more religious to your stress management.
  Here are my simple stress management tips for you:
  Always find time for exercise or some vigorous physical activities at least 30 minutes a day. Exercise release anti-stress hormone from the brain.
  

  Take some time to relax.If you have given some time to face stressful situation then you need to follow it with time for relaxation. For those who have sedentary jobs and feel exhausted from mental fatigue, sports like swimming, volleyball, badminton, tennis and other sports that requires you to be on a group is the best anti-mental exhaustion reliever. Family exercise is the best example for it. Then, bored your mind into relaxation. Sit down then close your eyes and do nothing. Few minutes from doing this, you will be on relaxation state.
  Meditation or repeating a focus word is a great way of relaxation too. Find a quiet place, sit down, close your eyes then relax your muscles. Keep your breathing slow and natural then concentrate on it. Discard stray thoughts that comes into your mind. Start repeating a focus word or phrase with each relaxation.
  Find some ways to slow down. Get up 30 minutes early for you to have extra time to sit and read the paper or an inspirational book before leaving for work. Then, when you get to your job, take some time to sit in the car for an extra two minutes to prepare yourself for the day’s work.
  Share and experience love daily. It is not enough that you know you love your family, friends and co-workers. Show it to them by sweet smile, touch and some caring acts. This actions will come right back to you.
  It will be a great pleasure for me if you take some time to share some stress test and stress management tips you know on comment section.

 

 

Effect of Color on Behavior

Are you 
planning to repaint your house? Psychologists believes that colors has effect on behavior. According to Maria Simonson, Ph.D., Sc.D., a behaviorist, the color you pick for a room will have some sort of effect on its occupants. In fact, it has been found out that kids learn better in brightly colored rooms.

So, if you want to have a relaxing dinning room and you are staying in cool climates, better paint your dining room with off-white, tan, pale gold or beige color. And, if you are staying in a warmer climate, better paint your it with cool blue or green color. But, if you want your family’s appetite especially kids’ appetite to be stimulated better paint it with warm colors like yellow, orange or red.
If you want to have a good night sleep or an optimal sleeping conditions, pale pink, mauve and lavender colors are great for cooler climates. Pale blue, pale green and beige are good relaxing colors for those with hot climates. If you are suffering from lack of sleep, why not repaint your room?
Color your rooms to make it more homey to the occupants than just an ordinary room because color could greatly affect one’s behavior.